Blake and I were talking the other night. He said something hurtful, and I went into shut down mode. (This is how I have always responded to conflict…I know it’s not healthy, but lets move on.:)) The next morning he said something very profound to me. He said, “For words of affirmation to not be your love language at all (It’s probably at the bottom of the five), words sure can hurt you.” They mean very little when positive, but when negative, can crush me. Why is this? I do not consider myself a sensitive person. And I must clarify, really they crush me most when they come out of Blake’s mouth. So does that move words of affirmation up on the list? If they can make me feel “unloved”, does that mean I do feel loved when they are spoken kindly as well? I’d love to know your thoughts.
What are your top two love languages? And maybe you can help me understand mine!
(In case you have never read The Five Love Languages, they are acts of service, quality time, physical touch, giving and receiving gifts, and words of affirmation.)